Most of us come to therapy or coaching with the goal of feeling better, reducing negative habits, healing trauma, etc.

The good news is that all of that is possible.

But. It isn’t possible in the ways we usually try to get there, which is some version of waging a war on the parts of us we think are “problems” and trying to control or get rid of them.

That isn’t the goal in IFS.

As I mentioned in the last post, we can’t get rid of parts of us even if we wanted to. And I recommend that you take with a grain of salt any therapy or coaching work that says otherwise.

The really, really good news is that the actual goal of IFS therapy is…