As a trauma specialist, people interested in therapy and coaching with me tend to have three primary modes:

1. I know I’ve got some stuff from the past to work through, and I’m ready to get into it!

2. I think I’ve got some stuff from the past to work through, and I’ll do it if I have to. (Are you sure there’s no other way…?)

3. I just want to feel better now - let's leave the past out of it.

The vast majority show up in one of the first two modes. They have some understanding of trauma, recognizing that some kind of past experience might be at the root of their current struggles. But even as they want to “face their past,” they…